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I was a slow starter myself getting into sex toys, and didn't experiment with a sex toy until I was 25 years old, and I know it can be a little daunting at first, and even more so introducing them into your relationship. Bringing sex toys into your relationship is a great idea and can be very beneficial for both parties, and many couples that use sex toys during foreplay and sex will tell you that it is a good way of keeping their sex lives new and exciting. More often than not there is no problem introducing sex toys into your relationship, however it is best not to discuss the subject whilst actually having sex, as this could probably put a bit of a dampener on things, and could throw up questions such as.. "Am I not good enough?" or.. "Am I doing something wrong?". Choose a time and look through a sex toy catalogue or website (ours would be a good start. hehe) with your partner and choose something that you're both comfortable with, maybe start with something small, a cock ring or small vibrator. Choosing something too big and scary, or something that you're not ready for could easily put you off using sex toys again. When you have chosen what sex toy is right for you and your partner and had it delivered, make sure you have time alone with your partner to play around with it, get rid of any distractions. Take the dog out for the toilet beforehand, unplug your phone and turn off the TV. Take your partner into the bedroom and experiment with your newly bought sex toy. Experimenting with sex toys for the first time is a lot of fun, but be soft and gentle with each other, using a soft touch with any sex toy that you use will actually heighten the sensation of the sex toy and will help create a more relaxing and enjoyable encounter. If you feel at any time that it is uncomfortable, make your partner aware of this and stop, there's nothing wrong with admitting that the toy that you have chosen isn't the right toy for you. If you decide that the toy that you had chosen isn't for you, don't be disheartened there is a huge range of sex toys out there, of all shapes and sizes and there is something for everyone. Have fun. Bella.
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